To Karate or not to Karate
K, many of you know that up until the age of 4 #1 was an extreamly difficult and aggressive child. The last two years have been seriously easy in comparison. In many ways I think a large part of the problem was his language delays, and some other issues he's been able to work through, and grow out of to a great extent. He could still tend to be impulsive, has problems with peer relationships, but hasn't been aggresive.....at least till today.
Today we went to an indoor playland (on snowday #3 , last 2 days I get, today I have NO idea why it was canceled), despite the fact that every other mother in the school district was there, and it was crazy, and overwhelming, I was taking pride in the fact that my boys are at a point they could take it in stride, not get overstimulated, and were playing very nicely together. But when they disappeard for a while I went looking for them, and found another mom looking into a tunnel..oh oh. Yup there were my kids in a fight with 2 other kids. Apparently (#1's side of the story) The boy said the tunnel was his and his sister's so #1 hit him. When I asked what was going on the mom said some kicking....after pulling the boys out #1 had some red marks on his face, but the other boy's whole side of his face was red and he was crying. I of course made #1 march over to say he was sorry, and we then left. In the process #1 was not happy, and I ended up "fining" him $3 from his allowance - a new punishment we're trying. (he can earn it back with good behavior).
This leads to my question. Up till today I had pretty much decided to enroll #1 into an intro to Karate class tomorrow (Payday!). My hope was that it would help him gain self control, and diminish the appeal of revenge he seems to have if someone hurts his feelings. However now I'm wondering if it won't just make him more violent and bring out this aggresive side to him even more. We've deiced to hold off on team sports for the time being because they're expensive, time consuming, and honestly I just don't think it would hold his intrest. So if not Karate, anyone else have any ideas for building self confidence, and self control?
Today we went to an indoor playland (on snowday #3 , last 2 days I get, today I have NO idea why it was canceled), despite the fact that every other mother in the school district was there, and it was crazy, and overwhelming, I was taking pride in the fact that my boys are at a point they could take it in stride, not get overstimulated, and were playing very nicely together. But when they disappeard for a while I went looking for them, and found another mom looking into a tunnel..oh oh. Yup there were my kids in a fight with 2 other kids. Apparently (#1's side of the story) The boy said the tunnel was his and his sister's so #1 hit him. When I asked what was going on the mom said some kicking....after pulling the boys out #1 had some red marks on his face, but the other boy's whole side of his face was red and he was crying. I of course made #1 march over to say he was sorry, and we then left. In the process #1 was not happy, and I ended up "fining" him $3 from his allowance - a new punishment we're trying. (he can earn it back with good behavior).
This leads to my question. Up till today I had pretty much decided to enroll #1 into an intro to Karate class tomorrow (Payday!). My hope was that it would help him gain self control, and diminish the appeal of revenge he seems to have if someone hurts his feelings. However now I'm wondering if it won't just make him more violent and bring out this aggresive side to him even more. We've deiced to hold off on team sports for the time being because they're expensive, time consuming, and honestly I just don't think it would hold his intrest. So if not Karate, anyone else have any ideas for building self confidence, and self control?
posted by Beth @ 12:44 PM
1 Comments:
At 12:47 AM,
-E said…
I dunno. I've heard good things about martial arts, but we haven't looked into it yet. Di has her kids enrolled and is paying a pretty penny each month. I guess that is why I haven't looked at it too hard...lol!
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