Random memories and thoughts from vacation
Ok, there will be no order to this, or really a serial logic since I'm SO NOT ORGANIZED yet, so I'll just hit the high (and low) points of our 2500+ mile drive through IN,IL,Iowa,NE,SD,MN,WI, and back through IL, and IN again. Plus the visit with both sets of family.
---IL sucks. The speed limit when driving or towing any kind of a camper on the freeway is 55 mph. And it's a BIG state.
---Why do the kids always behave the worst when you need them to behave the best? They were really good for the most part except at DH's friend's parents house (although they love kids and were wonderful about it), DH's sister's house (She and her "roommate" don't have kids, never did, and I don't think even like them. Plus they have tons of breakables, and cats that also hate kids), and while we were meeting an online friend for a night of camping and her family grrrrr.
---Hubby insisted on WAY overpaying the dog sitter. I couldn't figure out why till he said that he use to get paid more then double what we did pay for FARM sitting...umm little bit of difference babes.
---I really like my online friend in person, and her hubby seemed nice. Wish I had more then just a couple hours to spend with her, or lived closer to her.
---My sister told me a big revelation her and her DH had about me and Hubby...We don't know what we want in life, and that's why we bounce around so much...Really??? I'd have NEVER guessed that one.
---Hubby and I *think* we are starting to figure it out a little bit. I *think* we want to settle down on a hobby farm somewhere between family's. Hubby's voting for SD, I'm thinking western or southern MN. No we have NO idea when or how this could happen. Unfortunately there aren't alot of jobs for computer geeks in the middle of nowhere (and to clarify we MUST be within 30 minutes of a town big enough to have a walmart, although I'd probably try to support the town's businesses.) I'd like to be 3 hours from my family...hubby wants a town 5 hours away, where there may just be a few computer geek jobs. I might be able to handle that.
---No I haven't lost my mind I've always wanted a hobby farm since I was a kid, just never thought of it as a possibility because I'm too outspoken for a small town, but if I can stand KY I can stand any small town.
---I might even consider moving near DH's family if his friend's parents wanted to leave us their place in their will or something...Yes the thought crossed my mind, no this would never happen since even though their son (Dh's friend) died last year they have other unofficial kids....Plus their step-grandson. And mainly they sold that half of their farm, but the people who currently own it "asked them" to live in it so it doesn't become a meth lab. Must be nice people to let them stay in their home rent free. My understanding is most farmers would burn it for the "crop land" which would be a huge shame. Anyway Hubby and I LOVE LOVE LOVE their house, and hubby took pictures of it so if we were to ever build or anything we could try to re-create it...With a few modern amenities...Like a new kitchen, a shower, more then one bathroom, and a foundation that's not crumbling. I might post a few if I can get them off hubby's computer.
---It's really sad visiting the parents of a friend who died. No one in their 30's should die before their parents and when their step-son they were a SAHD for a while too is 11, and at an age they need their dad. I only met him and the kid once, but she said the boy is taking it really hard. Hubby started bawling the minute he walked in the door, and even I almost did. The mother shouldn't be the one comforting people.
---BIL sprung on Hubby that he might have 3 more grown children, 1 for sure, but he's not sure if the twins are his. Both mom's (yes different mom's) were engaged to other people at the time they got pregnant. The twin's hubby died when the kids were little so she wanted to keep the possibility of them being BIL's hush hush so she'd get the SSI money....ok...I'm not touching that one with a 10 foot pole, but really I'm not surprised. I "think" I got that story right. I was just trying to think of a reply so I may have heard some of it wrong.
---MIL and other brother's wife are worried about above mentioned BIL's 4yr old. They kept saying autism, and I kept thinking they were over reacting. They're not. Hopefully it's nothing more then a more serious language problem then #1 has, but I think a high functioning autism is not out of the question given my qualifications that I have a friend who's son is Autistic (and yes her and I were laughing about my MIL wanting me to diagnose niece on this point). The parents keep saying there's no problem, just a little speech and social delays from being raised alone on the farm...She'll catch up in school...Um Yeah. I tried to stress to them in a non-threatening normal conversation how in my research on #1's issues I found Language delays can impede schooling if not delt with early enough. She starts pre-school this year. Hope the parents will listen to the school
---Life around my family is chaotic. I'm not use to the noise any more
---Now that we're home #1 is asking when can we go on vacation to see everyone again. #2 is throwing MAJOR Tantrums ( I understand you people who say 3's are hard now) and I have piles of laundry patiently waiting for me in the basement....yipee.
Not vacation but today at Aldi's (a very tiny grocery store with 1 clerk) I got to be the mother that can't control her children all the old people glare at. It started out great. Both kids wanted in the cart, wow, then #1 accidentally dropped a carton of eggs he was holding oops embarrassing, but it was an accident. At the checkout #2 had a MAJOR tantrum because I put the carrots in the bag instead of letting him do it, I didn't know he wanted to do it. I put him down to put the bags in the cart and he picked up the gallon of milk and threw it on the floor busting the side out of it. Needless to say the boys are drinking pwd. milk today, and I stopped for an Iced Mocha on the way home. I did apologize to the lady at the coffee place drive through for the screaming coming from the back seat, and gave her a big tip.
I also figured out that if you tie DS's door knob to the bathroom door knob it effectively works as a lock on his door while he's in time out and I'm drinking my coffee regaining my composure so I don't kill the child. Luckily I remembered my sister's locking me in the bathroom after my shower...of course they also swiped all the clothes and towels as well.
Oh and next week we get to start potty training so hopefully #2 can go to school this year. I'm SO looking forward to that ! NOT!
---IL sucks. The speed limit when driving or towing any kind of a camper on the freeway is 55 mph. And it's a BIG state.
---Why do the kids always behave the worst when you need them to behave the best? They were really good for the most part except at DH's friend's parents house (although they love kids and were wonderful about it), DH's sister's house (She and her "roommate" don't have kids, never did, and I don't think even like them. Plus they have tons of breakables, and cats that also hate kids), and while we were meeting an online friend for a night of camping and her family grrrrr.
---Hubby insisted on WAY overpaying the dog sitter. I couldn't figure out why till he said that he use to get paid more then double what we did pay for FARM sitting...umm little bit of difference babes.
---I really like my online friend in person, and her hubby seemed nice. Wish I had more then just a couple hours to spend with her, or lived closer to her.
---My sister told me a big revelation her and her DH had about me and Hubby...We don't know what we want in life, and that's why we bounce around so much...Really??? I'd have NEVER guessed that one.
---Hubby and I *think* we are starting to figure it out a little bit. I *think* we want to settle down on a hobby farm somewhere between family's. Hubby's voting for SD, I'm thinking western or southern MN. No we have NO idea when or how this could happen. Unfortunately there aren't alot of jobs for computer geeks in the middle of nowhere (and to clarify we MUST be within 30 minutes of a town big enough to have a walmart, although I'd probably try to support the town's businesses.) I'd like to be 3 hours from my family...hubby wants a town 5 hours away, where there may just be a few computer geek jobs. I might be able to handle that.
---No I haven't lost my mind I've always wanted a hobby farm since I was a kid, just never thought of it as a possibility because I'm too outspoken for a small town, but if I can stand KY I can stand any small town.
---I might even consider moving near DH's family if his friend's parents wanted to leave us their place in their will or something...Yes the thought crossed my mind, no this would never happen since even though their son (Dh's friend) died last year they have other unofficial kids....Plus their step-grandson. And mainly they sold that half of their farm, but the people who currently own it "asked them" to live in it so it doesn't become a meth lab. Must be nice people to let them stay in their home rent free. My understanding is most farmers would burn it for the "crop land" which would be a huge shame. Anyway Hubby and I LOVE LOVE LOVE their house, and hubby took pictures of it so if we were to ever build or anything we could try to re-create it...With a few modern amenities...Like a new kitchen, a shower, more then one bathroom, and a foundation that's not crumbling. I might post a few if I can get them off hubby's computer.
---It's really sad visiting the parents of a friend who died. No one in their 30's should die before their parents and when their step-son they were a SAHD for a while too is 11, and at an age they need their dad. I only met him and the kid once, but she said the boy is taking it really hard. Hubby started bawling the minute he walked in the door, and even I almost did. The mother shouldn't be the one comforting people.
---BIL sprung on Hubby that he might have 3 more grown children, 1 for sure, but he's not sure if the twins are his. Both mom's (yes different mom's) were engaged to other people at the time they got pregnant. The twin's hubby died when the kids were little so she wanted to keep the possibility of them being BIL's hush hush so she'd get the SSI money....ok...I'm not touching that one with a 10 foot pole, but really I'm not surprised. I "think" I got that story right. I was just trying to think of a reply so I may have heard some of it wrong.
---MIL and other brother's wife are worried about above mentioned BIL's 4yr old. They kept saying autism, and I kept thinking they were over reacting. They're not. Hopefully it's nothing more then a more serious language problem then #1 has, but I think a high functioning autism is not out of the question given my qualifications that I have a friend who's son is Autistic (and yes her and I were laughing about my MIL wanting me to diagnose niece on this point). The parents keep saying there's no problem, just a little speech and social delays from being raised alone on the farm...She'll catch up in school...Um Yeah. I tried to stress to them in a non-threatening normal conversation how in my research on #1's issues I found Language delays can impede schooling if not delt with early enough. She starts pre-school this year. Hope the parents will listen to the school
---Life around my family is chaotic. I'm not use to the noise any more
---Now that we're home #1 is asking when can we go on vacation to see everyone again. #2 is throwing MAJOR Tantrums ( I understand you people who say 3's are hard now) and I have piles of laundry patiently waiting for me in the basement....yipee.
Not vacation but today at Aldi's (a very tiny grocery store with 1 clerk) I got to be the mother that can't control her children all the old people glare at. It started out great. Both kids wanted in the cart, wow, then #1 accidentally dropped a carton of eggs he was holding oops embarrassing, but it was an accident. At the checkout #2 had a MAJOR tantrum because I put the carrots in the bag instead of letting him do it, I didn't know he wanted to do it. I put him down to put the bags in the cart and he picked up the gallon of milk and threw it on the floor busting the side out of it. Needless to say the boys are drinking pwd. milk today, and I stopped for an Iced Mocha on the way home. I did apologize to the lady at the coffee place drive through for the screaming coming from the back seat, and gave her a big tip.
I also figured out that if you tie DS's door knob to the bathroom door knob it effectively works as a lock on his door while he's in time out and I'm drinking my coffee regaining my composure so I don't kill the child. Luckily I remembered my sister's locking me in the bathroom after my shower...of course they also swiped all the clothes and towels as well.
Oh and next week we get to start potty training so hopefully #2 can go to school this year. I'm SO looking forward to that ! NOT!
posted by Beth @ 2:04 PM
3 Comments:
At 7:23 PM,
Kami said…
WHOA on the BIL. Nice.
At 1:42 PM,
Me said…
If you are considering Southern MN I thought I'd let you know I lived in that area for 3 years.
Ironically another 'mother' of a friend called us yesterday to ask about Southern Minnesota as well. LOL.
At 11:22 PM,
Candy said…
OMG... woman, you need a vacation from that particular vacation. Cassie is in the "Alien" 3 stage now. I want to sell her. No, I'll pay someone to take her. We hope to start back potty training soon - we were doing so well, but with the hernia surgery we kind of let it go because it was just too much on her (and us).
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